The most basic definition of confidence is having faith in the reliability of a person or something. Today, let’s talk about confidence in oneself. Many people see this type of confidence as believing in yourself because you know people will like you. But what if they don’t? Better yet, what if you knew that people wouldn’t like you? Would your confidence be inspired? Would you be okay? My definition of being confident is knowing that you will still be okay no matter the outcome of a situation.
Confidence has to be inspired internally. It doesn’t need to come from how good people see you; you need to believe in yourself. It’s true that we won’t always get everything right—no one is perfect. Aiming for perfection is good, but have you ever wondered why it is so difficult to be perfect? If you reach perfection, what else will there be to aim for? And on whose basis do we measure perfection?
Confidence is, therefore, the acceptance of whichever outcome, good or bad. If you get good results, great. If you get bad results, you will have learned something new. Only a fool despises wise counsel. Most of the time, people act only when they are confident about something or someone. Therefore, if you only act when you are sure of your capabilities, when are you ever going to learn something new?
Often, when people lack confidence, it is because they are rarely kind to themselves. They do not treat themselves with kindness when they make mistakes or fail. That is why they will only be confident when they have faith in their abilities. They do not realize that being imperfect is a part of life. Being kind to yourself enables you to control your emotions even when things are not going your way. It helps you to stay connected with yourself and others, allowing you to learn from your mistakes and improve.
Therefore, let us start living life knowing that confidence is not “They will like me.” Confidence is “I will be okay even if they do not like me.” Embrace this mindset, and you will find strength in any situation, regardless of others’ opinions.
